“Between what is said and not meant, and what is meant and not said, most of love is lost.” Khalil Gibran
In today’s world, everything moves so fast – our thoughts and words included.
How often do we actually stop to vocalise the little compliment or kind greeting that we thought, but were in too much of a rush to say?
Most importantly do we remember to use kind words with the ones we love. It’s so easy to let that snipe or criticism slip out when we are having a bad day or are hurting inside, but how often do we stop and take the time to tell someone all the things we appreciate about them… the things that we assume they know… the things that will make them feel loved or appreciated?
Our words can carry more weight than we realise, they may make the difference between giving someone the strength to move forwards or driving them to give up. A careless word at the wrong moment has the possibility to affect someone’s self-image or confidence indefinitely.
Scientific research has shown that even simple repetition of positive words like love, peace and compassion, activates specific hormones that lower your physical and emotional stress. If you can think positive thoughts you’ll feel better and you’ll build closer and more positive relationships with others. Try to be aware and listen to the things you say, both out loud and to yourself. Be sure to make more positive comments than negative ones.
THINGS TO CONSIDER
– Positive words build people up. When was the last time you took time to compliment or praise someone around you? Encouraging words cost nothing and can mean the world to those who receive them.
– The efforts you make to be a kinder person can be undermined in a thoughtless moment. Sometimes we act without thought or react impulsively to make ourselves feel better. When was the last time you said something negative or hurtful to someone just because you were hurting? If we don’t stop to think and reconnect with ourselves before we speak or react, it’s entirely possible that we will lose who we really are due to heightened emotions or hurt. Choose your words wisely and speak them slowly.
– Negative talk and thoughts are self-perpetuating. The more you engage in negative conversations or thought patterns the harder it becomes to break the cycle. How often have you felt yourself drained by negative talk, how has that led you to behave? Positive conversations lift you up and empower you…. when was the last time you shared a positive experience?
WAYS YOU CAN USE WORDS TO MAKE THE WORLD A KINDER PLACE
1. Next time something good happens to you, share it with someone. We are all quick to share a bad experience, try to share the positive too.
2. Try to turn around a negative conversation. Don’t get involved in gossip. If you find yourself caught up in a negative dialogue try to steer the conversation onto a more positive track. If you can’t, consider walking away… in a positive way of course 😉
3. Smile and greet people you pass in the street. Just a little thing like this can put a warm feeling in someone else’s heart and make their day a little better. I’m not suggesting you grin inanely at every passer-by, but a few “good mornings” and a warm smile never hurt anyone, especially the older generation – you never know, you may be the only person they connect with all day.
4. Send a nice message to someone. It’s easy to lose touch with those we care about in the rush of our daily lives. Let them know you are thinking about them and how much they mean to you.
5. Give someone a compliment. It could be the checkout girl with the nice perfume, the waitress with the fab hairdo or the colleague who’s wearing great shoes today. If they have made the effort, let them know you’ve noticed.
6. Find a special way to say thank you when others do things that make you happy. Show your appreciation – it’s easy to take those around us for granted.
7. Positively acknowledge others’ abilities and efforts. If someone feels inadequate, encourage them. You may be able to do the job twice as fast, but what gain is there from pointing that out? Be the person who makes someone else feel like they are growing and achieving.
“How far that little candle throws his beams! So shines a good deed in a weary world.” – William Shakespeare