How can you recognise when you are not being true to who you are? For me, this question stirs a deep and powerful wave of emotion. Anxiety and self doubt is something we often push aside, but when we take the time to truly consider it, a cascade of feelings can pour out from the depths of our hearts.
Awakening to your true self is a moment that can shift everything. This idea became real for me during a recent live session of my Become a Coach programme. A participant shared a transformative experience, describing it as reconnecting with her real self. Her words resonated so deeply with me, and I knew how profound her realisation was.
Imagine no more anxiety, no more self-doubt, no more emptiness—only peace. That feeling is like being held by someone you love, soaking in a warm bath on a cold winter’s night, or lying in the sun with your favourite song playing. We have all experienced those moments when we feel whole and at peace. But have you ever fully claimed who you are?
Owning who you truly are is not easy.
We are all multi-layered and complex, and understanding every aspect of ourselves can feel daunting. Yet, if you crave less self doubt and more trust, love, and acceptance, this journey is necessary. In my experience, learning to accept and embrace who I am has brought greater success, freedom, and happiness. The first step is to honestly assess what feels off in your life. What feels out of place, and why are you not listening to that inner voice? After over 12 years of coaching others to be true to themselves, you might think I would have mastered it. The truth is, this work never ends. It is an ongoing practice, one I am always open to.
The universe has its ways of guiding us, often at unexpected moments. I was sitting on my terrace with my best friend Claire, basking in the warm November sun that felt like spring. We spoke about the changes I felt needed to happen in my life—how I had to shift, how certain parts of me needed to be released. That is when it hit me, I had not been true to myself. The realisation was overwhelming, bringing waves of emotion as I faced how far I had drifted from my real self, particularly in my business.
Things had felt off for some time, and I finally understood why.
I had shaped myself to fit what I believed others wanted. I had adapted my work identity, not my personal one, chasing approval and validation that never quite satisfied. The path I had taken, thinking it would lead to success, only brought discomfort. It is like wearing clothes that do not fit and then sitting down for a big roast dinner with dessert. No matter how good life may seem, if it is not aligned with who you really are, it feels wrong. You might know that feeling—the discomfort of a choice that looks right but feels all wrong.
Ask yourself, what doesn’t feel right in your life, and why are you ignoring it? This question has guided me recently. I had to make a difficult decision to let go of how I was running my business so the real me could take over. It was scary, even for someone used to change, but it’s necessary. On the other side of growth, something bigger and more meaningful awaits. It is a space where your true self can thrive.
Reaching that place is hard, but the reward is worth it.
Change is frightening, even when it is right. I have learned to trust the process and the unfolding. Beyond the fear is freedom. Letting go of self doubt makes room for the real you to step forward. And I am always eager for more of that, taking second helpings and even a takeaway of my truest self. How well do you know yourself? How comfortable are you in that knowledge? These questions are not easy, but they are essential.
The more you understand yourself, the more you will align with who you truly are. If it feels right, I would love to hear from you. Share what comes to mind as you reflect on this. Do you feel aligned with your true self, or are there parts of your life where you feel inauthentic? If so, what is stopping you from making changes?
Key Takeaways
Reflect on what feels misaligned in your life and pay attention to those feelings—they are telling you something important. Embrace the full complexity of who you are, even if it feels overwhelming. True success comes from living authentically, not from meeting external expectations. Trust the process, because on the other side of fear is freedom.
If you are ready to take the first step, I am here to support you.
I will share what I have learned on this path and help guide you to live more authentically. Coming home to who you are is the most rewarding journey, and the benefits are greater than you can imagine. Reach out if you want to begin this journey; I would love to support you in coming home to yourself.
